Discover Your Self-Love Language
Discover Your Self-Love Language
We often think of love languages in relationships — but the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one with yourself. Knowing your Self-Love Language helps you understand the ways you best receive love, so you can nurture yourself more intentionally.
Step 1: Take the Quiz
(Read the questions, circle A or B, then tally your answers.)
1.
A) I feel loved when I tell myself kind, encouraging words.
B) I feel loved when I take time to relax and do something I enjoy.
2.
A) I feel loved when I organize my space, cook a meal, or do something helpful for myself.
B) I feel loved when I give myself a little gift (flowers, journal, cup of coffee I love).
3.
A) I feel loved when I wrap myself in a blanket, take a bath, or move my body gently.
B) I feel loved when I set aside time just for me — with no distractions.
4.
A) I feel loved when I hear myself affirm: “I am enough. I am worthy. I am loved.”
B) I feel loved when I treat myself to something special as a reminder of my worth.
5.
A) I feel loved when I care for myself by checking things off my to-do list.
B) I feel loved when I spend quiet time journaling, meditating, or reflecting.
Results: Your Self-Love Language
Mostly A’s = Words of Affirmation → Your soul thrives when you speak kindly to yourself. Positive self-talk and affirmations are powerful for you.
Mostly B’s = Quality Time → You need intentional time with yourself — journaling, meditating, or doing hobbies that light you up.
Mix of A/B → Check which ones repeat the most, that’s your top language.
✨ You might also notice other patterns:
If you loved gifts → Treat yourself often, even in small ways.
If you leaned toward acts of service → Support yourself by making life easier (meal prep, structure, routines).
If you felt drawn to physical touch → Lean into body-based care (massage, yoga, movement).
Reflection Prompt:
Now that you know your Self-Love Language, ask: “How can I give myself love in this way every day — even in the smallest act?”
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Step 2: Understand Your Self-Love Language
Here are the 5 Self-Love Languages adapted from Gary Chapman’s framework:
1. Words of Affirmation → Loving, encouraging self-talk.
2. Quality Time → Uninterrupted time with yourself.
3. Acts of Service → Doing things that support and care for yourself.
4. Receiving Gifts → Treating yourself to small or meaningful things.
5. Physical Touch → Caring for your body through movement and comfort.
Step 3: Self-Love Practices for Each Language
Words of Affirmation
Write daily affirmations in your journal.
Record a loving voice memo to yourself and play it back.
Create sticky notes with kind reminders (“I am enough,” “I am loved”) and place them where you’ll see them.
Quality Time
Schedule a weekly “sacred date” with yourself (journal, walk, or creative activity).
Practice 10 minutes of mindful breathing or meditation each morning.
Sit with a cup of tea in silence — no phone, no distractions.
Acts of Service
Cook yourself a nourishing meal.
Organize a small space at home to create more peace.
Set up a bedtime ritual (lighting a candle, stretching, reading) that supports your well-being.
Receiving Gifts
Buy yourself flowers, a crystal, or something symbolic of your growth.
Create a “self-love box” with items that inspire you (letters to yourself, photos, quotes).
Celebrate small wins by treating yourself to something you enjoy.
Physical Touch
Practice gentle yoga, stretching, or dance.
Take a warm bath or self-massage with oils.
Wrap yourself in a cozy blanket and breathe deeply.
Step 4: Journal Prompts
What is my primary Self-Love Language?
How am I already giving myself love in this way?
What small, daily ritual can I add to honor this language?
How can I balance the other self-love languages in my life?